Relationship Services in Bethlehem, PA

 No matter what you may think, everyone is drawn like a magnet to romantic partners who are a creative version of the "good, bad, and ugly" we grew up with. In a simple-headed way, deer are drawn to deer and bear are drawn to bear—and those creatures neither deliberate about, nor are particularly conscious of, the reasons for their draw. They just are. So too we humans. Patterns we grow up with get built into our minds…and then those patterns become the templates by which we are drawn to and select a romantic partner. The vast majority of bad and ugly reasons for both our draw and choice usually reside outside of conscious awareness—just like for the deer and bear. 

If your parents were sincere, likely you are too—and were drawn to someone sincere as well. If however one of your parents or step-parents had been passive-aggressive, then either you are as well and/or have been drawn to someone who is also passive-aggressive…just like your parent—and driving you nuts being so. 

Relationship Services in Bethlehem, PA

No matter what you may think, everyone is drawn like a magnet to romantic partners who are a creative version of the "good, bad, and ugly" we grew up with. In a simple-headed way, deer are drawn to deer and bear are drawn to bear—and those creatures neither deliberate about, nor are particularly conscious of, the reasons for their draw. They just are. So too we humans. Patterns we grow up with get built into our minds…and then those patterns become the templates by which we are drawn to and select a romantic partner. The vast majority of bad and ugly reasons for both our draw and choice usually reside outside of conscious awareness—just like for the deer and bear. 

If your parents were sincere, likely you are too—and were drawn to someone sincere as well. If however one of your parents or step-parents had been passive-aggressive, then either you are as well and/or have been drawn to someone who is also passive-aggressive…just like your parent—and driving you nuts being so. 
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It is usually the reenactment of the bad and ugly that not only damages the relationship, but actually brings it down. Many self-help books will focus on money or communication as doing the damage. To be sure, those issues are not trivial. But what usually drives the relationship into the dreaded “death spiral” are the unknown, unnamed, and uncontrollable bad and ugly patterns built into us growing up and now playing themselves out on the stage of the relationship—much like some Greek tragedy.
Relationship counseling is designed to discover, name, and solve damaging problems. But when the relationship is inexorably sliding down the slippery slope toward the death spiral—or has already been sucked into its vicious vortex—then we have to expose, name, and restructure the underlying bad and ugly that drives the seemingly inevitable destruction of the relationship. 

As a certified specialist in relationship therapy and Clinical Fellow with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, I can help heal the destructive patterns. 
Family — Psychological Counseling in Bethlehem, PA
Couple — Psychological Counseling in Bethlehem, PA
Counseling a Woman — Psychological Counseling in Bethlehem, PA
It is usually the reenactment of the bad and ugly that not only damages the relationship, but actually brings it down. Many self-help books will focus on money or communication as doing the damage. To be sure, those issues are not trivial. But what usually drives the relationship into the dreaded “death spiral” are the unknown, unnamed, and uncontrollable bad and ugly patterns built into us growing up and now playing themselves out on the stage of the relationship—much like some Greek tragedy.
Relationship counseling is designed to discover, name, and solve damaging problems. But when the relationship is inexorably sliding down the slippery slope toward the death spiral—or has already been sucked into its vicious vortex—then we have to expose, name, and restructure the underlying bad and ugly that drives the seemingly inevitable destruction of the relationship. 

As a certified specialist in relationship therapy and Clinical Fellow with the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, I can help heal the destructive patterns. 
Schedule an appointment today and learn more about the benefits that 
psychological counseling may have for you in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania.
Associations:
American Psychotherapy Association; Pennsylvania Psychological Association; American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy 

Board Licensed Psychologist; Clinical Fellow with American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) 
Fellow, American Psychotherapy Association
Schedule an appointment todayand learn more about the benefits that 
psychological counseling may have for you in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania.
Associations:
American Psychotherapy Association; Pennsylvania Psychological Association; American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy 

Board Licensed Psychologist; Clinical Fellow with American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) 
Fellow, American Psychotherapy Association
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